Make friends is one thing. Be nice to everyone is another thing. But choosing who you want to be close with is extremely important. How much time do you really spend thinking about those people you meet/ interact with throughout your life??

To me personally, friendships/ relationships are hard to deal with until you’ve learned from previous interactions/ experiences. Unlike during childhood. As I grow up, I think for some reasons it’s okay to be choosy to whom we decide as close ones as they can make a huge difference in the decisions we make and who we become. I get it when mum said “choose your friends wisely… don’t get too attached with someone.. get to know them first..”. Truee, don’t just simply select and later those people toppled you down. Sometimes you’ll never really know people might have agendas behind your back. Always love yourself enough to walk away from people who don’t benefit you positively.

You can always be friends with everyone, be nice, but there should only be certain people who you would share everything with/ be close with. Surround yourself with the ones who is very supportive, positive, who brings you closer to Allah & have a beautiful heart, attitude and mind. Remember that people you associate with have a major impact and influence on your personal success and mental health. I need not want to suffer, or I might say I’ve suffered a lot. SO be choosy in letting someone be part of your life and don’t forget to be good ones too.

Till then,

Lisa xo

There will always be difficult people. There will always be people that throw negative vibes onto you and you’ll have to deal with it. There will always be criticism, everywhere. There will always be people who find faults in it. It doesn’t matter how you choose to live your life, whatever you do, someone will judge you for it. I’ve noticed that not everyone is going to like you. In fact, some people will positively hate you and go out of their way to sabotage your life.

What did I do?

To be honest, sometimes I feel tired & stress over all these. But I always bear in mind ‘it will be your problem if you let it be.. don’t waste your energy on them..’ I’ve been dealing with quite number of people/situations where it made me sick of it and sometimes I wondered why.. I tried to find reasons while my minds play tricks on me. It’s inevitable. I tried not to focus on it, but I’m concerned. I got confused most of the time, whether to trust or distance myself from the unhealthy stereotypes. Maybe things will change in the future. Maybe they won’t.

I distanced myself. At least I won’t be trapped with the dramas. I learned that strength & patience are needed when you’re in the toughest situations. Unhealthy feelings inside seeing those people are against you for no reasons. Just have courage to move on politely & remain calm (though sometimes it doesn’t work that way). Postivity keeps me going (for some people, I’m too positive. For some people, I’m not positive enough). I remained silence & of course it hurts most of the time. But this is reality world.

“No calamity occurs, but by the permission of Allah, and whosover believes in Allah, He guides his heart. And Allah is the All-Knower of everything. [64:11]

It’s either you run or embrace it. I pray that Allah give us peace & happiness through our lives so we wouldn’t have time for causing trouble to anyone’s life.

Till then,

Lisa xo